Where do I fit in this world

The feeling of not fitting into the world - Mental high efficiency (1)

Your life seems to be more complicated than anyone else's and you don't know why? Are you worried that you could function differently from "normal" people? Maybe you've even been told? You can never really switch off, you are extremely sensitive and you notice details that most people do not notice. You may even feel different moods and atmospheres in the room between people. Highly emotional, hypersensitive, gifted (or Asperger's Syndrome) may only differ in nuances and could different headings for the same underlying phenomenon. The perception and thought structure as well as the emotional experience of somehow different with theirs Feeling of not fitting into the world, can lead to problems coping with life, maintaining relationships, and great self-doubt. The Wrong Planet Syndrome, as you can also call it, sometimes makes you look at other people with incomprehension. As much as you try, you will find it difficult to understand. And the other way round is often not understood by the »neurotypical people« ...

Different names, one construct?

The French psychotherapist and communication trainer Christel Petitcollin, in her book I think too much: How we can tame the chaos in the head, shaped the construct of mental high efficiency, which could largely unite all of the above-mentioned terms or they overlap strongly.
What is mental high efficiency? Do you belong to these people and does this explain your difficulties in dealing with life?

Mental high efficiency: I'm not crazy ...!

Mental high efficiency: intensive perceptual impressions and thought analyzes down to the last detail © TORLEY under cc

Mental high efficiency includes the areas of Perception, thinking, feeling and acting. Sometimes those affected have the assumption that they are crazy. They just do not correspond to the norm. That is why they feel stress because they are considered eccentric, offensive and do not seem to fit into society. Strictly speaking, from a psychological point of view, based on these facts, we are in the clinical area. Because psychological stress is always something that needs psychological attention, especially if it is Psychological distress is based on a psychological structure that does not correspond to the majority - not the norm. But basically it is time to adjust the heads of society instead of the individual head ...

Relate the feeling of not fitting into the world

Neurological Diversity hides behind the relatively new concept of neurodiversity. This concept implies more tolerance towards otherness. True to the motto: I'm different, you too - so what?
According to the assumption of neurodiversity, different neurobiological variations in humans should be able to exist in parallel without assigning a label or disease label to the neurobiological minorities. The social discourse on this is still young and so the discussions on the conceptual subtleties are in full swing, which, among other things, affect the Limits of the concept in relation to real existing impairments and relate the consequences for those affected if, for example, they were not given a diagnosis. This could well lead to advantages and disadvantages. It is therefore essential to deal responsibly in this debate.

But back to the high mental efficiency: What distinguishes the feeling of not fitting into the world?

Chaos in the head: am I mentally highly efficient?

With the mentally highly efficient, the mind never stands still. They are all the time Thoughts at full speed, keep circling in your head. Up to 30% of people are said to have a more dominant right hemisphere of the brain, which could be related to the different types of perception and thought patterns. In the following, we have set out some aspects based on Petitcollin's remarks in order to characterize mental high efficiency.

Sensitive, different perception

With a high-performance engine that is difficult to control, you have the feeling that you do not fit into the world © Sourav chanda under cc

  • because an above-average amount of stimuli from the environment is perceived, it comes to one Overstimulation and the consequence, yourself overwhelmed by the world and unable to feel
  • Impressions are experienced more intensely and even supposed trivialities are perceived
  • the feeling of looking at other people from the outside and "as if through glass"; Feeling of alienation
  • Perceive smells, noises, tactile stimuli more strongly (e.g. age-related hormonal changes in people or scratchy substances)
  • Mentally highly efficient people register even small details in conversations with others
  • are sensitive to their own body awareness
  • Mind is constantly on alert
  • often feel disturbed by noises, light or smells, but are often not aware of it
  • can recognize a song from the first few bars (or the voice of a voice actor or the special taste of a dish from childhood, etc.); take these skills for granted; think that is the case with all people, after all, a mentally highly efficient person only has this one perception from birth

Innumerable information bursts over him, and he registers an unbelievable wealth of details. Using this data, he tries to guess the missing pieces of the puzzle and asks himself thousands of questions. Often he is full of suspicion and very tense.

Christel Petitcollin, psychotherapist

Flood of thoughts

  • the thoughts are constantly revolving around some topic
  • What has been said is examined down to the smallest detail, every single sentence is mentally dissected
  • this sometimes leads to very absurd assumptions for others, which, however, are only made up as a possible conceptual conclusion by the mentally highly efficient; in the end ponder them in all directions and allow any hypothesis, because their thoughts often lead them on new, different paths; pictorial: endlessly branched thinking; try to take into account all possible variants like a stream crisscrossing and with meandering and detours; just want to be really sure about their conclusion, but often are not
  • can't switch off; The head never comes to rest, not even at night
  • now and then find this flood of thoughts as "annoying" and this eternal turning around of topics
  • the They experience language as limiting; it does not adequately express the thought highways in the brain
  • as a result, they often press around and say nothing, knowing that they cannot fully and adequately express what they have on their mind
  • fail because of the subtlety and complexity of their thinking
  • But: they often ask themselves why others don't see what seems to be crystal clear to them; often question each other doubtfully (Or do I see that completely wrong?)

What these people lack most are certainties to rely on. Constantly questioning everything, they move mentally on quicksand. Stability would be a wonderful alternative!

Christel Petitcollin, psychotherapist

In addition to the overstimulation in perception and the classic highways of thought, on which one never comes to rest, there are other aspects that go hand in hand with the high mental efficiency and the feeling of not fitting into the world. You can read more about it here.

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