What controls your thoughts


The realm of thoughts

Ingenious plans and strategies can be forged with the brain. It can do a wonderful job of helping us cope with life. But sometimes it exaggerates. Then it just doesn't leave us alone and jumps from one idea to another. Sometimes it gets stuck on a thought and repeats the same sentence over and over again. Thoughts can then arise that can block you, such as “this will be my worst result” or “oh dear, the others are so much better than me” or “I have to do my best not to be embarrassed”.

Images can also just pop up in front of our inner eye that show us in certain situations and then trigger negative or positive feelings.

Thoughts can then prevent you from enjoying life when it is easy. In your mind you are already in the future or still stuck in the past without consciously perceiving what is happening in the moment.

Thinking happens all by itself. Throughout the day there is a voice in the head and comments on actions, evaluates situations and people or makes plans.

If you haven't learned to use your head as a useful tool, your thought patterns may determine your life and therefore your actions - fully automatically!

How the brain controls you:

Since the beginning of your life, new connections have been created in the brain based on experiences (neurological network). The brain learns from your environment (parents, siblings, teachers, friends ...) and establishes connections - patterns emerge like a large network. Profound emotional experiences leave deeper patterns behind.

The brain also picks up all sorts of information from the media, such as television, internet, newspapers and radio, and links it to other experiences from the past.

From all this information our thought patterns and beliefs (= deep convictions) emerge. For example, the more someone is convinced that "I mustn't show any weakness", the more this networking is anchored in the brain. And the more aggressive, arrogant and distant this person becomes towards other behavior.

If you are not aware of your thought patterns, then the process from thought to aggressive action is fully automatic. Just as some don't know how they got to work - it just happened as a matter of routine.

Knowing where a particular thought comes from doesn't necessarily matter. However, it is important not to let them control you.

Why we stick to thinking habits

For one thing, we are often not aware of our thinking habits. Again and again I notice that some people talk something completely irrelevant, like "this will be my worst result" or "I can't afford it", although nothing has happened so far. When I ask them about it, they are very surprised that I saw a negative thought in it - that is just reality.

We developed many negative assumptions in early childhood. We took over some from our environment without checking them (see also podcast: "Test your faith"). Because they are so familiar to us and have also protected or helped in certain situations, they feel "right" and do not want to give them up so easily.

The familiar and familiar works very quickly and well, so it is difficult for us to get rid of this habit. Any smoker who has recognized that smoking is bad for their health and tries to quit knows what I'm talking about. It is just as difficult to get rid of negative thought patterns.

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Recognize negative thoughts quickly

Thoughts are closely related to feelings. When I think “the others are much better than me” then it doesn't feel so good. I feel small and intimidated. The result is that I approach the challenge with little self-confidence and make wrong decisions.

Trying not to think about a particular thought won't work. The solution is the opposite. Mindfully perceive the thoughts and recognize which thoughts are there. When you realize what thoughts are floating around in your head, then you can also see that they are just thoughts - no more and no less.

The difficult thing is not the thought “the others are better” but the fact that we believe in it and let the thought become reality. By perceiving mindfully, you can learn to consciously decide whether you want to continue to automatically believe the thought and act accordingly, or whether you want to behave differently.

For example, find a quiet place three times a day and observe what thoughts arise. A minute can be enough.

With a thought log you can write down your thoughts. Either you do it in a table, as in my document, or you just write down all the thoughts that arise during your mindfulness phase. If you do this for a while (at least 14 days), you may be surprised at the automatic thoughts that accompany you every day.

Greet thoughts

What helps me quite well is to greet the thoughts after perceiving them. Negative thoughts also want to be taken into account. So if you register a negative thought that is blocking you, stop and say to it, “Ah, there you are! I didn't call you, but it's nice that you are here. ”Or“ Ah, there you are again! ”- and smile.

With this posture you get some distance from the thought. Although he is there, he no longer has any power. Especially the smile, that is, smirk at the thought, robs him of his strength. The resulting distance helps to view the situation from a different perspective.


Thoughts are good, they help us in many situations. But pay close attention to the thoughts that accompany you. Just perceive negative thoughts as a product of your brain and hold power over your actions. Enjoy life and every single flight!

I wish a lot of wind



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